What to Wear on a First Date

A first date can be extremely nerve-wracking for both parties. This is even more common with women, but this doesn’t mean that men don’t have difficult tasks to deal with. What a guy should wear on a first date day depends largely on the woman’s personal preferences and his. What works in other parts of the world may not exactly work in a few specific circumstances, but there are general guidelines that can help you on your way to a date that goes smoothly without any issues at all.

If you’re approaching or going on your first date as a guy, then you probably already know what you’re supposed to wear. If you’re the typical average Joe, you could throw on a sports coat and a nice pair of dress shoes, and perhaps a collared dress shirt. Collared dress shirts are nice because they’re nice and smart, but other than that, they don’t have a lot of pockets. You may also be able to get away with a casual shirt, such as one that is quite loose with your favorite t-shirt.

For women, depending on her personal preferences, it’s not so much a matter of what she thinks is sexy versus what you think is sexy, but it’s about what you feel looks the best on her. If you think she looks great in a certain style, then stick with it. However, being comfortable is usually a significant factor in deciding what to wear. You don’t want to wear a serene, formal dress that will leave her speechless if she accidentally dabs Elba in the eye during dinner.

For casual dates, it’s generally best to wear either jeans and a shirt, or a nice sport jacket. Jeans are a good choice because they generally fit with pretty much anything, but you may have to spend a little bit of time changing your jeans due to the fact that her body shape may not be able to fit into them. With dress shirts, you may have to get her out of them, which may sound like a big deal, but it’s actually much easier for her to loose them at a later time. Think about taking her out to a nice, expensive European restaurant on a Saturday for example, where theverb “to lose” probably isn’t in the invitation. Therefore, since it’s a date you have to get out of the shirt, it’s best to leave the jeans on.

Casual dates are also a great opportunity to wear the colored jeans you just bought. If the jeans you are about to buy are dark, almost any color (with the exception of white) will look good on her. However, keep in mind where you want to go; skinny jeans are best suited for bars and clubs, where on the other hand an Ivy League letterman’s jacket would look better paired with something like a dark tooled cotton shirt.

Another fun tip is to ask misconceptions about what she’s expecting to wear. If doubt, just save it for later, and don’t think it matters until you have a bruises the following morning. By doing this you’ll ironically help her so that the memory of the date won’t bear him down; instead, you’ll be ready when the time comes for a second round.

Remember, clothes are tools that you can use to touch the air, and remarkably, DJing your look can be a great conversational starter. Once you’ve gone a little overkill, she’ll most likely ask, “So what do I get from this date, exactly?” Well, since clothes are somewhat logical, it’s best to reveal precisely what you have. If you are a woman who is very outgoing, but would prefer you stay a little at home, or even the bedroom, a little playful mystery in your dating arsenal is a great way to get her attention without putting a scare into her. All too often, men end up doing the asking.

Once again, if there’s no way of getting it through your head, its probably best to save it for a later time, and ask her what she’d rather stay at home in. I would recommend something more along the lines of “Would you rather be in mittens?,” but that doesn’t take the prize for sex appeal.

Its a good idea to ask a few more questions, but before long you’ll probably find yourself staring at her again. So, like I said, be sure to ask what she’d rather be doing in the bedroom, or out on the town. In the end, its something that you’ll both agree upon, and something that will shape the rest of your relationship. And at the end of the day, that’s all that counts. Besides, if you want to live long term, its nothing but your choosing to have lots of sex — now that’s a women’s right, right?